by Sheila Connolly
Earlier
this week I was sitting in a doctor's office waiting for my appointment. The ubiquitous large-screen television was
on, tuned to a morning talk show.
Normally I don't watch these, because my brain works best in the morning
so that's when I write. But in this case
I was a captive audience.
Betty White
was one of the guests. I admire Betty
White: she's smart, she's funny, and she
just keeps on going at 90 (her 91st birthday is next week). But what I realized was that she was wearing
my clothes. My public uniform, my go-to outfit for conferences, dinners, public
appearances, etc. Black pants, black
top, colorful tailored jacket, low-heeled black shoes. Did I mention that she was 90? I'm not.
So how did
I get it stuck in my head that this was how to dress "nicely"? I grew up in an era where there were clothing
rules for everything. Things had to
match (shoes and purse, for instance).
Underwear was never supposed to show ("ahem, it's snowing down
south"), except in some rather bizarre Maidenform ads.
In my childhood, going to visit my
grandmother in New York meant a frilly dress with petticoat, black patent
leather shoes (always too small) and socks with lace trim, and white gloves
(don't ask me why). Ladies who lunched
wore hats at the table, and applying lipstick in public was considered crude.
I also
lived through the seventies when all those rules blew up, but we got past that.
And then I lived through the professional "power suit" for women
era—you remember, the ones with shoulder pads?
And the blouse with the bow at the neck?
I never saw
my grandmother wearing a pair of pants.
She wore a girdle and stockings to take out her trash (down the hall
within her residence hotel). My mother
wore pants: double knit polyester with
elastic waistbands. I still have
flashbacks when I walk into the Women's department at a big department store,
because my mother is everywhere there. I
wear blue jeans, often. It is beyond my
imagination to picture either my grandmother or my mother in blue jeans.
What does
this have to do with writing? Well, for
one thing, we're supposed to describe our characters, so we as writers have to
make decisions: would our protagonist
wear blue jeans to this event? If she's
going out to a nice dinner, what does she wear?
How does she judge someone she sees, based on their clothing? And what
do those choices tell us about the character?
Industry
studies show that most genre readers are women forty or older. I'm making a wild guess that most cozy protagonists
are slightly younger, in their thirties.
My operating theory is that that age is ideal: old enough to have some
life experience, young enough to have options for the future. And while the
clothing rules may be more relaxed these days, I think I can still describe how
a thirty-something woman would dress.
I'm going
out on a limb with my new series, where my protagonist is in her
mid-twenties. And she's
blue-collar. She's been raised by an
immigrant grandmother, and she's had to work most of her life, after school and
now that she's graduated from high school.
She has no life plan beyond getting by.
When her grandmother dies, she's completely unmoored—no family, no home,
no clue. (Don't worry—her life improves
quickly, I promise.) And so far, she wears mainly blue jeans, with one slightly
better pair of pants for funerals and such.
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| Lena Dunham of Girls |
But I'll
admit it's a stretch for me to write about someone the age of my daughter (who
has opted for a kind of classic retro style—button down shirts, cashmere
cardigans, pencil skirts and the like).
But I look at something like the popular HBO series Girls and what the protagonist there is wearing, and I go,
huh? Is this fashionable, or is the
young woman supposed to appear clueless?
I have no idea.
Are there
consistent basic standards for appearance?
Is there some timeless dress code that transcends generations?
And why
are Betty White and I wearing the same clothes??
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