tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8056815460076050228.post5139156261468013081..comments2023-11-22T06:35:25.251-05:00Comments on POE'S DEADLY DAUGHTERS: Why People Stay Stuck in Bad RelationshipsJulia Buckleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10270211923343731659noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8056815460076050228.post-15488806025424527042010-03-05T09:15:48.925-05:002010-03-05T09:15:48.925-05:00Sandy, I've given workshops about that--what I...Sandy, I've given workshops about that--what I call the dysfunctional workplace family. It replicates the dysfunctional family of origin. They don't do it on purpose, but toxic is the right word.Elizabeth Zelvinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13944424094949207841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8056815460076050228.post-51824880775268941602010-03-04T15:37:02.024-05:002010-03-04T15:37:02.024-05:00I group some people into "soap opera people.&...I group some people into "soap opera people." These are people who live their lives as if they were in a soap opera.Marilynnehttp://marilynnesmith.com/bloggingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8056815460076050228.post-47416334982223532192010-03-04T15:24:23.259-05:002010-03-04T15:24:23.259-05:00I'm always fascinated (and repelled) by addict...I'm always fascinated (and repelled) by addictions to toxic *groups* -- people who might be relatively harmless on their own, but who join to form a negative force. Angry all the time, suspicious, demanding loyalty, and capable of running each individual's life off the rails. Teenagers get sucked into toxic groups all the time, but so do adults. Even the people you work with in an office Sandra Parshallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17403144248962124138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8056815460076050228.post-49424746090230813512010-03-04T12:13:39.475-05:002010-03-04T12:13:39.475-05:00Sheila, you might want to look at what you've ...Sheila, you might want to look at what you've said in the previous books about Meg's backstory, especially her childhood and family life. Anything you haven't already committed to can be made to serve Meg's trouble with intimacy. Even a family that the adult remembers as close and happy can have serious dysfunction that only comes out under investigation (a shrink's or a Elizabeth Zelvinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13944424094949207841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8056815460076050228.post-15524076488415688752010-03-04T09:29:03.785-05:002010-03-04T09:29:03.785-05:00These are things we need to hear, Liz, if we'r...These are things we need to hear, Liz, if we're creating believable characters. It may not be logical, but it rings true.<br /><br />Don't readers ever wonder about protagonists who seem to have no intimate relationships (Miss Marple comes to mind), or who have sequential ones, or who can't seem to make up their minds between two (think Stephanie Plum)? The last can serve as a plot Sheila Connollyhttp://www.sheilaconnolly.comnoreply@blogger.com